RW Blog – So You Say You Want a Conscious Man

So you say you want a conscious man, hey?

You do realize this would require you to be a conscious woman, right?
Do you know what that means? Do you understand the demands that unavoidably come with this territory?

It will require your ALL. It will require that you own your shit, all of it, even the deep, dark, hidden, nasty bits.

You’ll be forced to face:

  • The wicked witch within
  • The manipulative bitch who simply must get her way despite the cost
  • The prostitute who sells herself
  • The unhealed, needy little girl who wants constant reassurance from the outside
  • The destructive wild woman who will tear down an entire city simply because she feels like it
  • The unhealthy mother who treats her man like a little boy vs. her lover

The years of hiding the parts of self that aren’t accepted in our society will have to be opened to.

You’ll have to look at your distrust of the masculine square in the eyes and tell it to ‘fuck off’.

You’ll have to catch yourself every time you feel your body or your heart closing. And then you’ll have to work to open it.

You’ll have to let go of the rage, the grief and the pain you hold toward him. You’ll have to soften into an open hearted, completely trusting place so that this conscious man can take you to places you would never and could never take yourself to.

There’s a reason you crave a conscious man. Your heart and your soul knows what’s possible.

But you must be willing to do the work to get there. This is no airy fairy ride that you can transcend your way into and it isn’t for the faint of heart.

Talking to your angels will not get you there.
Opening your third eye will not get you there.
Skimming the surface and dancing around the truth of who you are will not get you there.

Knowing thyself will get you there. Knowing, seeing, opening to and accepting every aspect of yourself will get you there.

Letting go of the walls around your heart, your womb, your yoni and every other part of your body will get you there.

Forgiving every man who has ever wronged you in this life and every other life you’ve lived will get you there.

Forgiving yourself will get you there.

There’s two ways to do this:

  1. You do the work on your own. You open, you release, you heal, you come to wholeness on your own and then you meet a conscious man who is on the same level you are.
  2. You do it together, with a man who meets you where you’re at right now. You evolve together. He becomes consciousness, you become love.

Here’s what’s true, you always attract and inspire a man as deeply committed to opening in love as you are, right now, which means that a man will be conscious and present to the same degree that you are actively radiating your love and allowing life force itself to roll through your being.

If you want a conscious man, go get him! But don’t expect him to fall into your lap. He won’t. It’s against every natural law there is.

Do the work with a man who meets you where you’re at now or do the work on your own until a man who meets you shows up.

Everything else is just wishful thinking and fairytales.

Sabrina Lynn


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  1. Nick on March 17, 2017 at 10:24 pm

    Love this Sabrina… beautiful to hear this articulated with such clarity and passion. Goes straight to the heart of it.

  2. michal on March 20, 2017 at 9:22 am

    nice and clear . Thanks

  3. Milou on March 20, 2017 at 4:25 pm

    Beautiful… Needed to read this today.

  4. Tracy Rowe on March 20, 2017 at 11:43 pm

    wow. Inner witch? BItch? Seriously? You even managed to slut shame. And you’re female? You sure did manage to use a plethora of misogynistic pejoratives. How are women ever to be taken seriously if we can’t get past the cultural conditioning that describes us in such offensive, chauvinistic terms?

    • Daniel on March 21, 2017 at 11:17 am

      Clear and precise naming for the dark parts and personaes of women.
      Men have the same dark parts, different naming.
      So what?

    • Al on March 21, 2017 at 3:42 pm

      My thoughts exactly.
      Perpetuation some serious sexism here.

      • M on March 22, 2017 at 6:17 pm

        For real. Also he brings “consciousness” while she brings “love”. Same old story. This implies he’s the brains of the relationship and that Women should be all forgiving open armed radiant endless love.

        • S J on March 23, 2017 at 5:45 pm

          “he brings “consciousness” while she brings “love”… he’s the brains of the relationship and Women should be all forgiving open armed radiant endless love.”

          yes, this is exactly the path that was shown to me…it may go against a lot of what we are taught, but feminism is not a spiritual path after all, it is an ideology…we must be willing to question all aspects of our beliefs in order to live in constant bliss, surrender, forgiveness, love…

          It was shown to me that when a woman completely submits to a man a connection to the earth, and to the universe opens up; souls are healed and man realises his Godliness. It is a symbiotic relationship where the masculine and feminine energies merge to create a dynamic unit. I saw a glimpse of it last summer, and it was like the earth was speaking to me, I had so many signs that this was a path of true love that I had to follow it, even though some of what it implies clearly goes against societal standards. To release all need to control, to know, to think even, and just *be* in mindless bliss, existing in ecstasy. To be a channel of pure love through which a man can connect to the earth….incredible!

          • S J on March 23, 2017 at 5:52 pm

            I have been trying for a while to put into words what happened, and I finally posted something of my experiences here

          • lstorm on March 24, 2017 at 9:12 am

            Creating the Sacred Balance.

          • Luca Mantini on March 24, 2017 at 8:35 pm

            Too many years working against this collaboration of sexes to avoid peaople discovering who they really are, Mothers and Fathers

          • Timo on May 15, 2017 at 1:55 am

            Yes 2 triangles that form the sacred star of David that is at the heart of where the Divine Feminine and Masculine meet. This happens within each of us. The female energies represents the receiving and the male represents the giver. A man needs to open himself up to receive the Divine as much as a woman, or neither will attain higher consciousness. I think this isn’t about “a” woman submitting to “a” man.

          • Karen Palmer on June 26, 2019 at 3:42 pm

            Yes. I chose to go it alone and do my work on my own. It was a scary journey. I’m out the other side now. There is nothing that I have to do. This is peaceful. What will be, will be. We are on the same wavelength. The meeting between the masculine and the feminine is sublime in and of itself.

        • Imesha on March 27, 2017 at 12:21 am

          Really now? I think my experience of deep unconditional love has been the key for me not to hate men or others. We are not separate and to hate an other person is to hate the part of us, they reflect back to us.

        • Lennart Larsen on April 10, 2017 at 9:33 pm

          Yin Yang 😉 The law of nature not the law of modern society 😉

    • Andreas on March 21, 2017 at 4:13 pm

      To answer your question “how woman are ever to be taken seriously”: by accepting that there is “chauvinistic terms and cultural conditioning”, only be integration it can be passed.

    • Ian on March 21, 2017 at 4:49 pm

      By letting go of the prejudices u got about these words yourself.

    • Lanternfish on March 21, 2017 at 6:57 pm

      I can see why she used these terms, actually. It’s because (at least for me) these are the terms on the doors that I need to open or tear down. I found that by using those terms it actually got my closer to identifying my fear when I read it. For example- I’ve never literally sold myself as a prostitute, but I understand that she means owning using sexuality to play the game and the intrinsic inauthenticity inside the act that keeps the masculine and feminine energy stunted. But how she said it got me, personally, closer to the truth. It’s like a punk rock interpretation versus a folk song. I know that the words are more beautiful in the latter, but not necessarily more effectual.

    • Daryl on March 21, 2017 at 7:19 pm

      Looks to me, like she touched a nerve. I for example know for a fact I have both the needy little boy who wants only to cuddle mom in her lap, and be reassured that everything is going to be alright even though I consciously know it’s not. As well as the raging tyrannical demon lord who would cheerfully burn down a city for shits, giggles, and a twisted sense of revenge. In fact confronting and facing down all of the male analogues of each of those points in the list are what is expected of men to achieve the status of “Man”, not even good man, or noble man, just man. To accomplish more than the list above is to achieve the position of good man, and awoken man.

      But hey if you aren’t ready to grow up and admit that you actually aren’t the embodied goddess walking the earth that you think you are, maybe you will discover that someday. In the meantime some of the rest of us are actually waking up to reality and responsibility for ourselves and the generations that must follow us, in the aftermath of this post modernist apocalypse Darrida has created for us all.

      • Daniel on March 22, 2017 at 8:35 am

        Full ack Daryl … thanks for your wise words!

        • Nathan on March 22, 2017 at 7:23 pm

          Exactly Daryl agreed

      • Nathan on March 22, 2017 at 7:23 pm

        Exactly Daryl

      • Imesha on March 27, 2017 at 12:28 am

        EXACTLY Daryl

    • AllTheOtherGirls on March 22, 2017 at 2:56 am

      This is some serious girl on girl internalized misogyny. The article has an ingratiating tone meant to gain nods of approval from men. (I’m not like all the other girls… I’m “conscious!”). Blecch!

      • Juliet on March 25, 2017 at 4:19 pm

        I agree with the concept, that if we want an awakened partnership, both parties have to be awake. But I have to agree with you about the tone!

    • Nathan on March 22, 2017 at 7:30 pm

      own your shadow beliefs and behaviors as this article is trying to point out, whether using more politically correct terms or not, the truth lies in naming the shadow and confronting the fear. Behind the dark shadow lies the golden shadow.. Dark shadow projection of “bitch/witch/slut” stems from belief of shame (not enough” of some sort, so it drives the unconscious “negative ” behavior, speaking to that belief by naming the judgement or projecting is the start, then flipping the script into the truth about the positive belief or truth about one’s self is second. “Bitch” belief gets flipped into “lady who gets stuff done ” or “capable” instead of not “smart enough” , then reinforce this belief consciously. Got name it in order to look at the parts of both shadows.

      • Tina on March 24, 2017 at 11:38 am

        Sorry…It lost me when I was told I should be love to his consciousness. How about we both be conscious and we both love.

        • Juliet on March 25, 2017 at 3:58 pm

          Right??? Thank you Tina.

          • Firas on March 26, 2017 at 11:27 am

            Hello humans, i am a soul, riding a meat coatet sceleton made out of stardust. Like you.
            We are a mixture of two main energied in this universe .. some call them ying and yang, some call them male and female, some call them the love and consciousness, some call them giving and taking .. this mixture is in all of us. How do you call them?
            Or do you say there are now differences? I am interested. I want to learn.

            When i watch, feel, think, .. us humans i see that we have mainly two models of the spceship. They have different specifications. They are the hardware. I call these models the female model spaceship and the male model spaceship. We can enhance it, we can do modifications. But we cannot change everything.
            The crew is made out of female and male humans, energies, entities .. the female, ying crew members and male yang crew members. They have different skills. They have to work together to navigate inbetween the stars. This beautiful galaxy is full of adventures.

            To make a child you need a woman and a man.
            A child is the metaphor and the concrete proove, the new born star.

            It hurts me if i read some of this posts here, where some female model spaceship communication crew members send very confusing information.

            The text about the conscious man is a very healing information for me. It is a very truthfull and brave text. It points on the dark side of female model spaceships.
            I appreciate texts that point on the dark side of men too.

            We all have dark sides, shadows, supressed energies inside of us.
            The bitch and the fucker, the witch and the sorcerer, the little girl and the little boy.

            I have never met a woman who has transcended her bitch completely. I have never met a man who has transcended the fucker completely.

            We all have deep wounds. If we start to wake up and dare to feel it. We realize this deep wound of the fighting of male and female energies since centuries and in our particular life. Don’t you? I do!
            It damaged all of us. Women and man and all the children that raise up and are confused.

            Nowerdays the pioneers of the new age of peace and integration experience change inside and outside. a man starts to feel and get in contact with his female and ying energies. And a woman starts to get in contact with her male and yang energies.

            We have still not enough role models to learn from.
            Its our generation to grow. We have to face the problem to be role
            Models for our children and each other.

            We all have to struggle with our self picture according to the rest of the world. We are all living in times where fighting of genders wants to end. We are in the middle of a pradigm shift away from the patriarchy … patriarchy is mainly the supression of female energies and not just the supression of the female model spaceship. Patriarchy is also supressing the female crew members in male model spaceships.

            No man is able to rape a woman if he is not supressing female energies inside himself.

            This is what is see. And i confess that i am scared to write this here, because i am scared of being judget by angry women. Thats my truth. Its just my truth.

            Since i open up to my heart and try to listen to the supressed parts in myself i must confess .. i realize .. my male energies are confused and my female parts are confused .. they are not working together very good. But it is getting better. It is work! In that moments when they work good together, listen to each other and dare to accept the point of view of the other even if the cannot really “feel” or “understand” it or can refer to experiences they stop fighting but accept the differences and admire each other for the differences.

            I learn every day how i can hurt a woman without being aware of doing it. And i learn every day how a woman can hurt a man without realizing it.

            We are different. We still speak different languages .. how beautiful and challenging. The diversity of life is lo lively;)

            I do not understand why somebody has a problem to accept that male energy has its qualities and female energies has their qualities .. none is better.
            They are the best if they work together!

            Ying, female energies in and around me i connect with compassion, love, intuition, feelings, the ability to surrender, to care, to bring together, to share, to fill a space with life, awareness of everything, forgiveness, ect.

            Yang, male energies in and arround me i connect with
            Uncompromising ability to divide, consciousness, linear logic, final decisions, the ability to be be straight, concentrate one just one thing, to break and destroy things, to create spaces, ect.

            So if a spaceship is compassionate, forgiving and full of love .. the femal crew members are in control and guiding.

            If the spaceship is doing a clear decision without any compromise and out of pure consciousness .. the male crew members are in control and guiding.

            For a life that is worth it where love is inspired by love and love is inspired by consciousness we all need both sides. We share dynamically the position of the captain. Maybe one day the captain will be partners in love AND consciousness. Thats the aim of the journey .. we are not there already and it can bring us in real danger if we pretend as if.

            Peace is when someone has integrated both.
            In its good and light and aware qualities and in its bad and dark supressed shadow qualities. Nothing is better .. they are just there and our job in this live is to support peace.

            Hey .. when i say that in every woman is the saint and the bitch i know that in every man is a saint and a killer.

            We are one coin but represent the different sides.

            If love and consciousness comes
            Together FULLY we create paradise on planet earth and support the healing of the universe.

            This is our common job .. to raise children that are the warriors, protectors and parents of the the paradigm where everything has its place and time.
            The new paradigm will be something where all
            Of us are aware of their archetypes that work together and dynamically say where we have to navigate to reach planet paradise.

            TRUTH is the fuel of the spaceship.
            TRUTH is the child of the new paradigm.

            I like laotse who said: truthfull words are not nice, and nice words are not true.

            Who of us can handle 100% truth of the other if it differs from my personal perspective on truth?

            How do i react im this situation.
            Are the dark sides if me are in control, the bitch and the killer, or are the light sides are in control, the conscious lover?

            I thank all of us who give their best.
            So i thank everybody. We all give the best we have.
            All if us is alive and on the journey to planet paradise.

            Lets share how we imagine this planet .. maybe we can have it on planet earth;)


            I am living in berlin and here is my number 0178 187 23 17.
            I want to meet to share in according to understand each others perspective and to train to accept our self and each other even if we do not understand each other .. for example we could bring a text and read it and then share how we perceive it. Or we listen to each other when we share about our wounds and the injustice we experience.
            Whatever .. i face my fear as good as i can and confess that there is still hope behind my wounds.

          • Aneta on January 30, 2018 at 5:09 pm

            Firas, you got the point. I like also another expression. Men are like wheels located on one side of the car and women like wheels on the other side of this car. If one of the sides has bigger wheels than this car will move around in circles so will not get anywhere. Simple. And like Sabrin said. We have inside this masculine and feminine part of us that we need to understand and balance. Thank for your comment x

          • kelly hart on February 1, 2018 at 7:18 pm

            Thank you for your comment, Aneta! Ha! Well said 🙂

    • David on March 24, 2017 at 12:25 pm

      I think what she means is to own up to the beliefs we hold about ourselves whatever they may be and through coming to understand them, the beliefs release and finally we are left with who I am. I’ve been using Byron Katie’s The Work, to surgically remove some of my most toxic ideas, it’s most illuminating what the ego comes up with in describing itself.

    • Luke on April 9, 2017 at 4:37 pm

      I wonder what the females that say this isn’t the right tone would have liked to read instead. And I wonder why it is wrong to see two different bodies that work together to gain most from both ndividuals. As man is the conscious part, does that mean we do not give love? No. Same counts for the consciousness of a woman. But you cannot deny we function differently. The love a woman has for her child often can never be surpassed by the love a man has for his child. Not saying it isn’t there. Just saying we’re different. That doesn’t mean we can’t be treated equally. It just means that on average, both of us have our strong suits and our weaker ones. I have struggled for a long time with my own selfdestructive behaviour as a man, like the wild woman. It just tries to highlight the different forms your ego will float to the surface, and the explosive reactions are nothing different than that same ego.

    • CJ on April 24, 2017 at 3:23 pm

      Amen! This is the most disgraceful, misogyny-sympathizing piece f crap written because of the “conscious living” literary audience it is directed at, and the vain assumption that readers like you and me would doubt our souls and our intuitions and our inner Goddess’ voice, second-guessing ourselves, after reading this woman-hating/a busing slop.
      “Prostitute who sells herself”?! Really?!
      This author wants to guilt and shame and condemn female human trafficking survivors? Some of the STRONGEST women on the entire planet?! How DARE she… Shame on this author and shame on this entire site. The only “higher- conscious” ANYthing here is your response calling this garbage out for what it is.

      The most conscious woman alive (and I train and speak and help others heal daily), who is engaged to the a very conscious and super masculine, confident, relaxed, super-strong and gorgeous non-white man who will be REVILED when he sees this.
      Actually- he’s so conscious that he will likely raise an eyebrow, laugh, share his unmistakable wit and humor at the ignorance here, and then tell me that TRULY conscious men are aware that the burden upon women seeking conscious REAL men is misplaced. Because men have sadly gotten away with being entitled, bratty, whiny, LESS THANS who focus on their own needs and disorganized emotions for so long that they cannot even find their way back to becoming conscious beings and real men without WOMEN helping them…

      Additionally- no female ever EVER “has to forgive” ANYONE who has ever out her in grave danger or harmed her.
      That is nothing but flawed belief based on monotheistic, patriarchal religious edicts, created by… MEN.
      There is nothing fct or science-based about “forgiveness is the final step in healing…”
      It’s mythological theology based BS created to hand restored power back over to the ones who took the original power away. It is designed for sympathizing of male abuse upon women and children to be widely accepted and instituted.
      Nothing more.
      Ladies, the only forgiveness you ever need to provide is loving forgiveness to yourself for being human, which means you are vulnerable. We ARE vulnerable and we are not impervious to harm or pain or sickness.
      Self blame is entrapment of the spirit: so forgive yourself for simply being human. Vulnerable. You’ll find tremendous peace in that. You don’t have to “BE” anything else.
      Be real, make your daily mantra to give and receive love freely, especially within your own self, to do NO willful harm. Your proper and correct mate will be the one who meets you, right there in that loving, peaceful space of kind and beautiful intention.

      You know who you are- you are not ANY of those horrid and culturally spoonfed stereotypes this article’s author so disgracefully purports you to be.
      All she was doing was parroting the very sad and negative eons-old myths about female nature that the most tiny and desperate, non-masculine males have been spreading as “truths” in order to continue their perceived control of everything around them, and of their hearts and fragile egos within them.
      Because they aren’t ok with being vulnerable.
      They’re not ok with being human…

  5. Cherie on March 21, 2017 at 4:17 am


  6. Truth on March 21, 2017 at 5:08 am

    How about “Here’s what’s true FOR ME, I always attract and inspire a man as deeply committed to opening in love as I am, right now, which means that a man will be conscious and present to the same degree that I am actively radiating my love and allowing life force itself to roll through my being.”

    Is it possible that this is not true for everyone? Its actually a scientific impossibility…so why not phrase it with what you do know…and that’s your own truth?

    • Firas on March 27, 2017 at 4:41 pm

      My truth in my experience is, that when i am conscious in my connection with my lover, she seems to radiate more love. As if the women i have been with really like it if i am conscious, so she can follow her inner truth easier and she feels free.

      With being conscious i mean mainly that i take full responsibilty for my thoughts, feelings and actions. That i do what insay and say what i do.

      The way around is the same .. if my lover is conscious and takes the same responsibilty i can open my heart easier and radiate more love.

      Maybe the defenition of consciousness for the man snd love for the woman is an unlucky description.

      My ying sides essence is love and my yang side is consciousness.

      Possible to have both .. for women and men.

      But like i said before: the package man or woman is not the same like ying, moon, earth, .. (female) and yang, sun, sky, … (male)

      The package is filled with ying and yang .. and it can have different mixtures .. what i see today is that the package woman seemes to me more oftehn filled with ying energy and for the package man more yang energy .. this difference works like a magnet.

      I even would say: real consciousness leads to love and real love leads to consciousness.

      What i see in the world is there is a big mountain of shit and the female is digging from the one side and the male is digging from the other side .. if me meet .. we are in heaven.

  7. Tiffany on March 21, 2017 at 5:16 am

    Thank You

  8. toraprincess on March 21, 2017 at 4:09 pm

    LOVE this!

  9. firas on March 21, 2017 at 5:38 pm

    Thank you .. this words are tear drops of rain in that part of my soul that is a desert.
    May we men support each other to take our shit in men circles and face it in ourselves.
    There is a reason why we crave so much for the feminine. It is worth it!
    A wild heardet man howling out to the women who are running with woolves.
    Thank you for your beauty and consciousness.
    And guy´s. Good that you are there 🙂
    Towards a new culture of consciusness and love.
    whoouuuuuuuuuuueeerrrrrreeee is the soooouuuullll

  10. Carmien on March 21, 2017 at 7:59 pm

    Fabulous article!

    There is an additional comment that a conscious man could add. A special relationship is not the same as a sacred relationship. A sacred relationship comes from knowing to love everybody the same. The question then becomes, Are you ready for a relationship with a man that lives through allowing the awareness that Love (or God) is everything? After all, a man that has accessed unity, or Christ, consciousness knows that it is that without which God would not know God.

    This conscious man has two rules by which to live life. Rule #1: Love everybody the same. Rule #2: Forgive yourself when you forget Rule #1.

    This conscious man is single, aware that self love is the precursor growth in sharing. And that when he embodies the vibrational frequency of his hearts desire then, and only then, will the Law of Attraction bring a conscious woman into his life.

    Love and peace

  11. Jenna on March 22, 2017 at 5:40 am

    While I FEEL the truth of part of this. The need for myself as a woman not to get distracted by looking for a conscious man – but instead owning and being REMINDED that I too have a shadow, that does hold archetypes of the feminine ; both powerful and negative. I don’t read it as misogonostic. And I go feel more and more women are looking for validation for all acts of sexism we can find.

    Now, that being said. Our consciousness IS NOT always mirrored by another. In fact for men with hidden addictions, violent behavior, truly sexist viewpoints – they will be confronted and awakened (in rage) by a conscious female unwilling to be controlled, bullied or so on.

    For a long while I read alot of David Deida (which is the tone of this article) I was interested in orgasmic meditation etc- for its call to support me in finding true feminine surrender.

    What I found instead was a man (or men) “into” my openness, forgiving nature, willingness to work through inner child issues etc — but who were taking on ZERO masculine responsibility. Those Who appear to be a “conscious man” may actually be a man adept at finding conscious women to support them – only to walk away when SHE has to take on the masculine role for him.

    * shadow of thinking conscious men will be “attracted” to surrendered or “willing to open in love” women.

    I am willing to open in love. I have incredible community, friends, family who push me to my edges of consciousness and love daily.

    But I am not willing to play into the arms of a “conscious man” – demanding that I unconditionally love his narcissism or self serving nature.

    Where is the conversation about healthy female and male roles???

    Single mothers are the most stressed, poorest population in the US statistically. If conscious men are out there in numbers – why the cultural norm of leaving women in roles of parenting for both sexes.

    It doesn’t add up.

    • XX on March 22, 2017 at 6:41 pm

      Thanks, my thoughts too….personhood above genderedness please. I don’t need a conscious man to meet for myself and my own fulfilment. But it would be terrific if conscious men and women showed up on a daily basis for the good of the world of humans and our planet full of other species. I’ve been through so much in my 50+ years, I just want folks to stop BS by any name –and consider how short life is to be chasing (exclusively) personal needs. That’s just stunted full stop, nevermind boy/girl or woman/man/

    • Nathan on March 22, 2017 at 7:22 pm

      David Deida is good stuff, but not the holy gtail of relationships. I agree with what you wrote, and I’ve seen these “conscious” men manipulate much of David’s work or “teachings” to fill their narcissism and ability to get laid in the “new age” conscious community, but they never really look at their own shadow beliefs about themselves or their behaviors, ditto for women as this article is trying to point out, whether using more politically correct terms or not, the truth lies in naming the shadow and confronting the fear.

      • Sprout on March 24, 2017 at 2:10 pm

        Fucken eh. The thing that I often think is we can rebuttle and refute someone’s article. The article in itself has some wonderful truths yet the rabbit hole goes deeper. My path is simply about self, I mean often the world view that the path is for two people. Marriage is the perfect example. Yet although relationship and marriage is great. And for me my spiritual path is relationship. My own shit is mine to find truth in. On my path I am learning to heal all the internalized yin and yang qualities, to come from a non dualistic approach I’m foreseeing, even though non-duality isn’t clear to me yet. I cannot tell someone to be something that I am not. With my light I’m pulling out my darkness. This isn’t about a male being in a different light then a female. We all walk the same road. Have compassion and see the truth beyond the veil of illusion, beyond your shadows of morality that might be clouded in your own sea of opinion. Feel love and share. Any words to help me reflect are always welcome when not coming from reaction to emotion, coming from compassion for my own human experience I ask to be met. Thanks

    • Sprout on March 24, 2017 at 2:06 pm

      Fucken eh. The thing that I often think is we can rebuttle and refute someone’s article. The article in itself has some wonderful truths yet the rabbit hole goes deeper. My path is simply about self, I mean someone the world views path for two people. On my path I am learning to heal all the internalized yin and yang qualities to come from a non dualistic approach I’m foreseeing even though non-duality isn’t clear to me. I cannot tell someone to be something that I am not. With my light I’m pulling out my darkness. This isn’t about a male being in a different light then a female. We all walk the same road. Have compassion and see the truth beyond the veil of illusion, beyond your shadows of morality that might be clouded in your own sea of opinion. Feel love and share. Any words to help me reflect are always welcome when not coming from reaction to emotion, coming from compassion for my own human experience I ask to be met. Thanks

    • Lea on January 31, 2018 at 5:55 am

      I agree and thanks for the reminder. I do believe this is poorly worded to the point that it could be dangerous to some women. I’m sure that isn’t the author’s intent, however I have one of those raging men outside of the bathroom door at the moment. I will be exiting as soon as I am able.
      I agree that if there was a plethora of men even capable of being conscious, women and children wouldn’t be suffering to the extent that they are. I love men although as I age, sadly that is starting to change. If the enlightened man of my dreams comes, that would be beyond fantastic. Until that moment, I prefer to place my priorities on my children and myself and helping other children as well. I shall change for myself. I certainly won’t wait for the prospect of a man to be my impetus. Boy does that piss the dude on the other side of that door off. Poor baby. He invited me in under false pretenses so now I will leave when I am good and ready. If I sound angry, I am at the moment. I’m also simply asserting my rights to my own peace of mind. So where is the article about how some boy needs to become love to match my doctorate trained brain? ????????????????

  12. S J on March 22, 2017 at 11:45 am

    I am doing the work on my own, while I am with someone. My husband is not consciously interested in this kind of approach, and has no time for it right now anyway. But the more I open to love and vulnerability, the more beautiful things are between us.
    I feel there was a risk I could have gone on a kind of ego trip and decided he wasn’t my spiritual match…left him in search of someone ‘more conscious’ but that’s bullshit isn’t it. Instead I had to face up to a lot of the archetypes described above, and hidden aspects of my sexuality. I have never felt so whole. And I have been blessed to receive quite incredible support from the universe in my journey so far. So I hope the approach set out in this article becomes more widely spoken about, as I think it’s really true, and perhaps we could go even further and say – everyone do this work right now, wherever you are, whoever you’re with, because you are there for a reason! Trust, and love 🙂

    • Harry Dijkshoorn on March 23, 2017 at 9:09 am

      Bless you SJ! Beautiful what you describe. Well done.
      Love, Harry

      • S J on March 23, 2017 at 6:06 pm

        Thankyou so much Harry! That is so kind, I really appreciate it 🙂

        I have been meaning for a while to share my experiences, how the universe helped me in my quest, it is ongoing of course, but if anyone can help me, it is this man!

        • Sonia on October 1, 2018 at 3:42 pm

          Who IS This man? I see you’ve attached that article a few times. How can we find out a way to reach this god of understanding and wisdom? Thanks.

  13. Jeremy Britton on March 23, 2017 at 11:30 am

    This post seems to have touched a few raw nerves! Great! Accept that a polarising piece will have some people loving it and some people hating it. Accept the aspect of yourself that reacts negatively or with hate/defensiveness. This aspect of yourself is an aspect of your personality which needs some work. ???????????? A conscious person (male or female) would respond only with love & peace, not with aggression, upset or defensiveness.
    If this post offends you, look into the mirror, and see why it pushes your buttons, and how to remove those buttons, so you can get your Angel wings ????

    • Firas on March 27, 2017 at 4:48 pm

      Thank you 😉 .. radical truth .. if something makes me upset it may point on something in myself i do not want to face.

  14. Helen Retundra on March 23, 2017 at 5:10 pm

    Lol at all the men here telling the woman that if they object to this egregious sexism dressed up as guidance for spiritual enlightenment then it is a sign they are not conscious enough. How typically manipulative of shallow new age spirituality. It simply dresses up old attitudes in newer, shinier platitudes, but it is no less harmful, in fact probably more so.

    The idea that men are to become consciousness and woman are to become love, that all women’s distrust of men is some kind of unhealthy hangover and not an absolutely sane assessment of reality, is all pure sexism.

    Facing the darkness is good but you don’t to have to invoke misogynist stereotypes about women to do so.

    • Juliet on March 25, 2017 at 4:31 pm

      Thank you, Helen. Your words are true and full of love.

    • Firas on March 27, 2017 at 4:58 pm

      I take a risk to be understood as an unconscious man 😉 .. but no risk no evolution.

      I think and feel that you are right but your post works the way around too. Just replace women with man.

      I want to share questions i have:
      What is the egg and what is the chicken in the war between the genders?

      What does it change if i would wish more consciousness from women and more love from men?

      Regarding to the article: could that give me another perspektive?

  15. Jane on March 24, 2017 at 11:22 am

    What misogynist horseshit.

    Women aren’t prostitutes, bitches, or “needy little girls.” These are stereotypes that men force upon us.

    Nice use of sexual metaphors, too: soften, open up, trust. All the things men want us to do anyway, only I suppose it isn’t woman-hatred when another woman says the words.

    Women, trust YOURSELVES and don’t allow men – or their handmaidens – to manipulate you.

    • Firas on March 27, 2017 at 5:12 pm

      Hello human, you seem very angry.

      You are right women are not prostitutes or whatever .. like men are no misogynist or whatever.

      We can become this or act like this if we are sick inside. Too much pain destroys us snd leads to frustration and then we can loose our selfrespect and may manipulate others with the aim to exploid then. Every human has its own strategy and there are some things that works easier for women and some easier for man.

      If i read your post .. i need to open my heart very consciously to not react with an attack. Why?

      Your post gives me the impression that it written by somebody who is a men enemy.

      I do not want to blame you .. there must be more reasons than this article to make you write so angry.

      I wish that you experience conscious love as much as you need and want.

      You are nothing less then beautiful like all of us.

      Thank you for your opinion!

  16. Alejandra Acosta on March 24, 2017 at 4:29 pm

    This is really good material, thank you for sharing this with so many details. Made me think of which one of those phases I have still to work.
    I made the Spanish translation. In case comes in handy for someone:

    “Así que dices que quieres un hombre consciente, ¿eh?

    Te das cuenta que esto requeriría que tú sea una mujer consciente, ¿verdad?
    ¿Sabes lo que eso significa? ¿Entiendes las demandas que inevitablemente vienen con esto?

    Requiere tu TODO. Requerirá que seas dueña de tu mierda, toda, incluso las más profundas, oscuras, ocultas, y desagradables partes.

    Te verás obligada a enfrentar:

    La bruja perversa dentro de ti.
    La perra manipuladora que simplemente tiene que hacer todo a su modo a pesar del costo.
    La prostituta que se vende.
    La niña herida y necesitada que quiere que constantemente se le reafirme desde el exterior.
    La destructiva mujer salvaje que derribará una ciudad entera simplemente porque se le da la gana.
    La madre malsana que trata a su hombre como a un niño pequeño en lugar de como su amante.

    Los años de ocultar las partes del yo que no son aceptadas en nuestra sociedad tendrán que abrirse.

    Tendrás que mirar directo a los ojos a tu desconfianza de lo masculino y decirle “jódete”.

    Tendrás que ser consciente cada vez que sientas que tu cuerpo o tu corazón se cierra. Y entonces tendrás que trabajar para abrirlo.

    Tendrás que dejar ir la rabia, el pesar y el dolor que sientes hacia él. Tendrás que suavizarte en un lugar de completea confianza y de corazón abierto, para que este hombre consciente te pueda llevar a lugares a los que nunca jamás podrías o habrías ido por tu cuenta.

    Hay una razón por la que ansías a un hombre consciente. Tu corazón y tu alma saben lo que es posible.

    Pero debes estar dispuesta a hacer el trabajo para llegar allí. Este no es un paseo de hadas por el aire, y no es para los débiles de corazón.

    Hablar con tus ángeles no te llevará allí.
    Abrir tu tercer ojo no te llevará allí.
    Andar por la superficie y dárle vueltas a la verdad de lo que eres, no te llevará allí.

    Conocerte a ti misma te llevará allí. Conocer, ver, abrir y aceptar todos los aspectos de ti misma te llevará allí.

    Dejar ir las barreras alrededor de tu corazón, tu vientre, tu yoni y cada otra parte de tu cuerpo te llevará allí.

    Perdonar a cada hombre que te ha lastimado en esta vida y en todas las otras vidas que has vivido te llevará allí.

    Perdonarte a tí misma te llevará allí.

    Hay dos maneras de hacer esto:

    1.- Haces el trabajo por tu cuenta. Abres, sueltas, sanas, llegas a la totalidad por tu cuenta y luego te encuentras con un hombre consciente que está en el mismo nivel que tú.
    2.- Lo hacen juntos. Con un hombre que te encuentre en el punto donde estás ahora mismo. Evolucionan juntos. Él se convierte en conciencia, tú te conviertes en amor.

    Esto es lo que es verdad, siempre atraes e inspiras a un hombre tan profundamente comprometido con la apertura al amor como lo estás tú, en este preciso momento; lo que significa que un hombre será consciente y presente en el mismo grado en que tú estés irradiándo amor y permitiéndo a la fuerza de la vida fluir a través de tí.

    Si quieres un hombre consciente, ve a buscarlo! Pero no esperes que caiga rendido en tu regazo. No lo hará. Es contra toda ley natural que existe.

    Haz el trabajo con un hombre que te encuentre donde estás ahora o haz el trabajo por tu cuenta, hasta que un hombre en el mismo punto que tú te encuentre.

    Todo lo demás son solo buenos deseos y cuentos de hadas.”

    • Sabrina Domenosky on March 24, 2017 at 11:33 pm

      Wow Alejandra, what a gift. Thank you so much for the translation. I’m incredibly appreciative. So much love to you, Sabrina Lynn

    • Alejandro on April 11, 2017 at 8:15 pm

      Gracias Alejandra!

  17. Annabel on March 25, 2017 at 11:22 am

    Dear Sabrina
    Your words hit home thank you. Very timely. My understanding is that, regardless of sex, we are pure consciousness..pure love.
    X Annabel

  18. P on April 2, 2017 at 12:33 am

    I don’t agree with this article in the slightest but appreciate your willingness to share your thoughts with the world- that takes courage and trust, good for you!

  19. Chaosophia on April 9, 2017 at 10:47 am

    Some people seem to confuse misogyny with the idea that you can’t say anything ever about women that connotates a collective and individual ‘dark side’, that exists for the feminine just as it does for the masculine.

    It takes a brave woman to take herself off a feminist pedestal as the ‘more than equal’ sex, to stop passing over all blame, and realise men are not generally competitors or power thieves but created as partners or complimentary energies in the process of our individual awakening.

    We have been on this journey from the start with our brothers. I for one welcome articles exploring how we can heal together, because after all the next generation really are the combination of these energies we weave with men.

    • A guy on July 26, 2017 at 11:52 pm


  20. Edmar on April 13, 2017 at 2:50 pm

    Great stuff, spot on and a free ticket out of victimhood, I took the liberty to share it on my FB page, aimed at masculine practice.

    • Sabrina Domenosky on April 13, 2017 at 11:20 pm

      Thanks Edmar. I appreciate the share and your words.

  21. Ven on April 21, 2017 at 3:16 pm

    That article is absolutely fabulous and well beyond the self-awareness of most “modern” women who I believe merely seek validation.

    What you offer instead is a challenge to women to look themselves deeply in the eye, acknowledge their own faults, foibles, and cherished social “free passes”…and take responsibility for themselves in the light of self-honesty and (dare I say) truth.

    Yes, I dare–and so did you! The way out of suffering is not an easy prescription to take, but there are no shortcuts to deep inner work. Probably most living adults are not ready for real (self-) medicine, and a negative reaction to such a brilliant and incisive message speaks more of the state of heart-and-mind of the individual reader than to that of the messenger.

    I have never seen such a potentially helpful and healing lesson from a woman TO women than this article. You got straight to the point and sustained it to the very end in a concise, readable manner.


  22. Sarah Yip on May 2, 2017 at 8:21 pm

    How about 3. You do it (heal your relationship) as a clan, woman and man with the support of your friends, family of creation (not always origin) and your Angels. Another positive article that unfortunately makes fun of opening your third eye. Stop the disjointedness I say – your third eye chakra is about seeing the good in every circumstance and opening your mind to higher guidance. Only when we let our Souls come in does love become our life. When I followed the 11:11 prompts and my psychic path I met my Soulmate and fell pregnant, healing generations of hurt. Some people reading this article may be on a similar journey. Consciousness is more than just body opening and language freedom. Great points and also some misses in this post. Thanks for the chance to hear you and also to speak up. Sarah from

  23. thom ram on May 6, 2017 at 10:01 am

    Sorry, my English ist too bad.

    Ich habe den Artikel auf Deutsch gelesen, in “Wir sind eins”.

    Sabrina Lynn! Das ist ein wichtiger Artikel! Hervorragend!! Danke!

  24. A guy on July 27, 2017 at 12:04 am

    MY thoughts? It takes a strong human, man or woman to face their dark side. As a man I work to be the best oneI can in everyway. I dont blame women or men for my suffering, however individuals at times. I see this term masogynist alot, from what seems to man-enemies… very few woman have supported my masculine nature, when I do find a women who owns her shit and doesnt project upon me their fear and weakness I worship the ground they walk on. Rare. Id be so thrilled if we could all love and support each other, but their is no doing that with so much anger towards your other sex…anyway… the sentence about men being conciousness and women love, cant say I agree with it. Maybe because tge second I read it, the bitch would emerge…yes I went there.

  25. Mary Ann Thompson-Frenk on March 25, 2018 at 7:45 am

    I agree with most of this….the exception being “forgiving every man who has ever wronged” me. I can’t forgive the grown male doctor who molested me and who I had to fight to escape, or the seven guys in college who tried to gang rape me who I outran, or the three stalkers I had to contend with through the years….the list goes on and on. But…there were women too in that….the doctor’s wife who took me to her husband to molest, the nurses present who looked the other way, etc. Point is, the real challenge was learning not to project who those people were onto the other men and women I have loved in my life. To do so is not fair to them. Letting go of being psychologically haunted is a hard thing to do….one of the hardest in fact…and I’ve faced some tough things in my life, so that is saying something. But, I am blessed to have a conscious partner in my life….turned out that my spouse ended up being in a male body….and he has helped me to face those burdens head on. Walking beside someone who has things to let go isn’t some romantic process in the way Hollywood would tell it. But it is among the most romantic things a life partner can do. As someone who has benefited from his strength, it is my job to also stand beside him and face the fire when he needs me to. So no, pretending one doesn’t see dragons anymore….or blithely walking past dragons, as this article suggests…won’t get you there. But becoming each other’s knights to help each other fight, side by side, each dragon….THAT will get you a mutually “conscious” relationship.

    • kelly hart on March 26, 2018 at 3:57 pm

      Thank you, Mary Ann, for your comments, and for sharing part of your story!